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24 July 2008

Stop asking the wrong questions!

Extracts from "The Inner Journey".

Sometimes we ask questions for which we really don’t want the answer! Nonetheless, when we ask a question, our subconscious minds will get to work to answer us.

Here are some examples of questions we want to avoid:

- What’s wrong with me?
- How long could this take?
- What could go wrong?
- How much trouble could it be?
- How hard could it be?


Asking questions can be empowering – as long as they’re smart questions!

"The uncreative mind can spot wrong answers, but it takes a very creative mind to spot wrong questions."

-- Anthony Jay

04 July 2008

Prashant lets meet at panvel instead for this place!!




From panvel go to thakurwadi from panvel (6 20 am ka bus)
Kalavantin Durg is adjacent to Prabalgad fort. On the Mumbai Pune express highway one can take the Shedung exit. Shedung is the base village of Prabal and Kalavantin forts. The trek is a 3 hours (a lot less actually) climb from here. You need to trek up the machi and from the village on machi there are rock cut steps which lead us to the top of the fort.
We reached Panvel at around 8:00am from Dadar, it's 70 min. journey from Dadar by local ST bus. We reached Vardoli via Shendug (14kms from Panvel) by 9:00am. Instead of Thakurwadi we took another simple route which is on the right side of the Prabal. It's a one hr. walk from little ahead of the Hospital to the Machi village where around 25 houses clustered. From this village one can have a closer look of Kalawantinicha Durg to the left & Prabal on right. Kalawantinicha Durg looks little challenging from here but their exist rock cut staircase till the top. This is a small fort & I guess it must be part of prabal Since it was almost attached to the Prabalgadh. Even "Trek the Sahayadri" didn't mentioned about this fort. I got this info from "Dongar Yatra" by Anand Palade's book. From the machi one can see Karanala Pinnacle on the West.
As per other books reference due to the dense jungle it was suggested to take local guide, we didn't find anybody in the Machi village at this time. So we decided to find our own way. It took 3 hrs. to reach on the top from Machi comfortably. We had our Vanbhojan (Lunch) & little rest near a Water cistern from where one can see a some part of fortification including the viewpoint. From this view we found really it was a big fort & it should take a day to explore the fort completely. After lunch he went ahead the right side end point of the fort from where one can get a beautiful top-to-bottom view of the Kalawantinicha durg with the zig-zag rock cut staircase. One can see a water cisterns in between the steps. From this point one can get the complete view starting from Matheran, Nakhind, Chanderi, Mhasmal, Navara-Navri Pinnacle, Hajimalang From East to North. Also the famous Karnala pinnacle on the west. Since this small view point with no shed, one cannot spend more time, we also returned back. We wanted to explore the other side area where we saw the fortification but at that time the sun was very harsh on us, so we decided to return back from the same way. We returned back to the Vardoli by 5:30pm. Then by local ST bus, which arrived at 6:00pm took us to Panvel in next 40 min. From here we dispersed to respective places. This was the last trek of this season. On the way while return back we found a different personality who shared his experience of the bike expedition from Delhi to Mumbai how he experienced after hearing our after trek talk. He was happy to knew that their are some like minded people around.







Kalawantin Durg16th Mar 2003
This was a small exploratory trek undertaken with reference to our last trek of Prabal Gadh. The view point of Prabal located at the north end from where one can have an amazing top view of Kalawantinicha Durg. The shape looks like "Shivling", with rock cut steps till the top. This place is on the left of the Prabal Gadh.
Our Journey till Thakurwadi was same as mentioned in the Prabal Article above. From the Machi village we took a straight route which goes to the col between Kalawantinicha durg & Prabal
From the col the fort looks like a pinnacle wall where carved steps in the rock shows a systematic entrance on the durg. The steps are steep with the exposure. Most of the steps are almost 2 ft. high. Once the rock cut steps complete then we tackled with the scree to reach on the base of rock massif. Extreem care one should take while reaching the rock base(more care should be taken while descending). From here to reach on the top of the boulders, one needs to do rock climbing of about 15 ft. From the top, on the other side using rope one can descend down to reach a caves. From top to the south a close look of Prabal view point one can see. Rest views are similar as mentioned in the prabal article reference to the view point views of the surrounding area like Matheran, Peb Nakhind, Chanderi, Mhsamal, Navra Navri, Tavli, Malang Gadh etc.


27 September 2007

Buying an Amplifier?

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08 September 2007

How to solder correctly

To be safe while working with plastics, just clip an alligator clip to the innermost part of the tab (where you want to solder the wire to) you are soldering and solder outside that to the tip of the tab. The alligator clip will act perfectly as a heat sink. Remember you have to heat the tab with the iron; dripping melted solder on it won't work. I will "pin" the battery connector to the lead with the soldering iron then apply solder at that point to both the iron and the tab. You know when its hot enough when the solder flows onto the tab and the surface tension disappears (the solder will appear to suddenly spread out over the tab). This is caused by the flux thats imbedded into the solder. Find the thinnest flux cored 60/40 solder you can (radio shack). You won't have any problems with it.

03 October 2006

The eccentric Brits

The brits became eccentric because they had a lot of idle time on their hand. When they ruled India, all they did was drink Indian tea and collect lagaan. Afterall, only people who have don't have to plough their feilds every afternoon can invent a game that lasts for 5 days! As the Indians say "Khali dimag shaitaan ka ghar".

19 September 2006

Begin the Process of Forgiving

Nine Steps to Forgiveness

Frederic Luskin, Ph.D.

1. Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not OK. Then, tell a trusted couple of people about your experience.

2. Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better. Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else.

3. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person that hurt you, or condoning of their action. What you are after is to find peace. Forgiveness can be defined as the "peace and understanding that come from blaming that which has hurt you less, taking the life experience less personally, and changing your grievance story."

4. Get the right perspective on what is happening. Recognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended you or hurt you two minutes - or ten years -ago. Forgiveness helps to heal those hurt feelings.

5. At the moment you feel upset practice a simple stress management technique to soothe your body's flight or fight response.

6.

Give up expecting things from other people, or your life , that they do not choose to give you. Recognize the "unenforceable rules" you have for your health or how you or other people must behave. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, peace and prosperity and work hard to get them.

7.

Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you. Instead of mentally replaying your hurt seek out new ways to get what you want.

8. Remember that a life well lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby giving the person who caused you pain power over you, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Forgiveness is about personal power.

9. Amend your grievance story to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.


The practice of forgiveness has been shown to reduce anger, hurt depression and stress and leads to greater feelings of hope, peace, compassion and self confidence. Practicing forgiveness leads to healthy relationships as well as physical health. It also influences our attitude which opens the heart to kindness, beauty, and love.

As I look back at my life, I can probably list eighty people that I have never forgiven for something. I hold grudges for a long time and frankly I am as stubborn as they come. Yes I know, it is unhealthy to have this trait.

Early this morning I noticed someone's recent del.icio.us bookmark entitled, 9 Steps to Forgiveness. Out of curiosity I clicked because I know at some point, I should face the music but I also understand that there is no magic cure. I have to start by introducing a few simple strategies that will enable me to change my ways. This is very similar to the strategy that Mark is using to reduce his stress which he detailed a few weeks back.

From the article, here are the 3 things that I am going to slowly introduce into my life:


* Get the right perspective on what is happening. Recognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended you or hurt you two minutes - or ten years -ago. Forgiveness helps to heal those hurt feelings.

* Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better. Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else.

* Give up expecting things from other people, or your life , that they do not choose to give you. Recognize the "unenforceable rules" you have for your health or how you or other people must behave. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, peace and prosperity and work hard to get them.



-Frank from http://dumblittleman.blogspot.com/
Posted: 9/11/2006 | |

27 August 2006

Action Files Photoshop

Action files .atn can be just dragged and drop in the Action Pallete.

24 August 2006

Top 50 interview Questions

1. Tell me about yourself:
The most often asked question in interviews. You need to have a short
statement prepared in your mind. Be careful that it does not sound
rehearsed. Limit it to work-related items unless instructed otherwise.
Talk about things you have done and jobs you have held that relate to
the position you are interviewing for. Start with the item farthest
back and work up to the present.

2. Why did you leave your last job?
Stay positive regardless of the circumstances. Never refer to a major
problem with management and never speak ill of supervisors, co-workers
or the organization. If you do, you will be the one looking bad. Keep
smiling and talk about leaving for a positive reason such as an
opportunity, a chance to do something special or other forward-looking
reasons.

3. What experience do you have in this field?
Speak about specifics that relate to the position you are applying for.
If you do not have specific experience, get as close as you can.

4. Do you consider yourself successful?
You should always answer yes and briefly explain why. A good
explanation is that you have set goals, and you have met some and are
on track to achieve the others.

5. What do co-workers say about you?
Be prepared with a quote or two from co-workers. Either a specific
statement or a paraphrase will work. Jill Clark, a co-worker at Smith
Company, always said I was the hardest workers she had ever known. It
is as powerful as Jill having said it at the interview herself.

6. What do you know about this organization?
This question is one reason to do some research on the organization
before the interview. Find out where they have been and where they are
going. What are the current issues and who are the major players?

7. What have you done to improve your knowledge in the last year?
Try to include improvement activities that relate to the job. A wide
variety of activities can be mentioned as positive self-improvement.
Have some good ones handy to mention.

8. Are you applying for other jobs?
Be honest but do not spend a lot of time in this area. Keep the focus
on this job and what you can do for this organization. Anything else is
a distraction.

9. Why do you want to work for this organization?
This may take some thought and certainly, should be based on the
research you have done on the organization. Sincerity is extremely
important here and will easily be sensed. Relate it to your long-term
career goals.

10. Do you know anyone who works for us?
Be aware of the policy on relatives working for the organization. This
can affect your answer even though they asked about friends not
relatives. Be careful to mention a friend only if they are well thought
of.

11. What kind of salary do you need?
A loaded question. A nasty little game that you will probably lose if
you answer first. So, do not answer it. Instead, say something like,
That’s a tough question. Can you tell me the range for this position?
In most cases, the interviewer, taken off guard, will tell you. If not,
say that it can depend on the details of the job. Then give a wide
range.

12. Are you a team player?
You are, of course, a team player. Be sure to have examples ready.
Specifics that show you often perform for the good of the team rather
than for yourself are good evidence of your team attitude. Do not brag,
just say it in a matter-of-fact tone. This is a key point.

13. How long would you expect to work for us if hired?
Specifics here are not good. Something like this should work: I’d like
it to be a long time. Or As long as we both feel I’m doing a good job.

14. Have you ever had to fire anyone? How did you feel about that?
This is serious. Do not make light of it or in any way seem like you
like to fire people. At the same time, you will do it when it is the
right thing to do. When it comes to the organization versus the
individual who has created a harmful situation, you will protect the
organization. Remember firing is not the same as layoff or reduction in
force.

15. What is your philosophy towards work?
The interviewer is not looking for a long or flowery dissertation here.
Do you have strong feelings that the job gets done? Yes. That’s the
type of answer that works best here. Short and positive, showing a
benefit to the organization.

16. If you had enough money to retire right now, would you?
Answer yes if you would. But since you need to work, this is the type
of work you prefer. Do not say yes if you do not mean it.

17. Have you ever been asked to leave a position?
If you have not, say no. If you have, be honest, brief and avoid saying
negative things about the people or organization involved.

18. Explain how you would be an asset to this organization
You should be anxious for this question. It gives you a chance to
highlight your best points as they relate to the position being
discussed. Give a little advance thought to this relationship.

19. Why should we hire you?
Point out how your assets meet what the organization needs. Do not
mention any other candidates to make a comparison.

20. Tell me about a suggestion you have made
Have a good one ready. Be sure and use a suggestion that was accepted
and was then considered successful. One related to the type of work
applied for is a real plus.

21. What irritates you about co-workers?
This is a trap question. Think real hard but fail to come up with
anything that irritates you. A short statement that you seem to get
along with folks is great.

22. What is your greatest strength?
Numerous answers are good, just stay positive. A few good examples:
Your ability to prioritize, Your problem-solving skills, Your ability
to work under pressure, Your ability to focus on projects, Your
professional expertise, Your leadership skills, Your positive attitude

23. Tell me about your dream job.
Stay away from a specific job. You cannot win. If you say the job you
are contending for is it, you strain credibility. If you say another
job is it, you plant the suspicion that you will be dissatisfied with
this position if hired. The best is to stay genetic and say something
like: A job where I love the work, like the people, can contribute and
can’t wait to get to work.

24. Why do you think you would do well at this job?
Give several reasons and include skills, experience and interest.

25. What are you looking for in a job?
See answer # 23

26. What kind of person would you refuse to work with?
Do not be trivial. It would take disloyalty to the organization,
violence or lawbreaking to get you to object. Minor objections will
label you as a whiner.

27. What is more important to you: the money or the work?
Money is always important, but the work is the most important. There is
no better answer.

28. What would your previous supervisor say your strongest point is?
There are numerous good possibilities:
Loyalty, Energy, Positive attitude, Leadership, Team player, Expertise,
Initiative, Patience, Hard work, Creativity, Problem solver

29. Tell me about a problem you had with a supervisor
Biggest trap of all. This is a test to see if you will speak ill of
your boss. If you fall for it and tell about a problem with a former
boss, you may well below the interview right there. Stay positive and
develop a poor memory about any trouble with a supervisor.

30. What has disappointed you about a job?
Don’t get trivial or negative. Safe areas are few but can include:
Not enough of a challenge. You were laid off in a reduction Company did
not win a contract, which would have given you more responsibility.

31. Tell me about your ability to work under pressure.
You may say that you thrive under certain types of pressure. Give an
example that relates to the type of position applied for.

32. Do your skills match this job or another job more closely?
Probably this one. Do not give fuel to the suspicion that you may want
another job more than this one.

33. What motivates you to do your best on the job?
This is a personal trait that only you can say, but good examples are:
Challenge, Achievement, Recognition

34. Are you willing to work overtime? Nights? Weekends?
This is up to you. Be totally honest.

35. How would you know you were successful on this job?
Several ways are good measures:
You set high standards for yourself and meet them. Your outcomes are a
success.Your boss tell you that you are successful

36. Would you be willing to relocate if required?
You should be clear on this with your family prior to the interview if
you think there is a chance it may come up. Do not say yes just to get
the job if the real answer is no. This can create a lot of problems
later on in your career. Be honest at this point and save yourself
future grief.

37. Are you willing to put the interests of the organization ahead ofyour own?
This is a straight loyalty and dedication question. Do not worry about
the deep ethical and philosophical implications. Just say yes.

38. Describe your management style.
Try to avoid labels. Some of the more common labels, like progressive,
salesman or consensus, can have several meanings or descriptions
depending on which management expert you listen to. The situational
style is safe, because it says you will manage according to the
situation, instead of one size fits all.

39. What have you learned from mistakes on the job?
Here you have to come up with something or you strain credibility. Make
it small, well intentioned mistake with a positive lesson learned. An
example would be working too far ahead of colleagues on a project and
thus throwing coordination off.

40. Do you have any blind spots?
Trick question. If you know about blind spots, they are no longer blind
spots. Do not reveal any personal areas of concern here. Let them do
their own discovery on your bad points. Do not hand it to them.

41. If you were hiring a person for this job, what would you look for?
Be careful to mention traits that are needed and that you have.

42. Do you think you are overqualified for this position?
Regardless of your qualifications, state that you are very well
qualified for the position.

43. How do you propose to compensate for your lack of experience?
First, if you have experience that the interviewer does not know about,
bring that up: Then, point out (if true) that you are a hard working
quick learner.

44. What qualities do you look for in a boss?
Be generic and positive. Safe qualities are knowledgeable, a sense of
humor, fair, loyal to subordinates and holder of high standards. All
bosses think they have these traits.

45. Tell me about a time when you helped resolve a dispute betweenothers.
Pick a specific incident. Concentrate on your problem solving technique
and not the dispute you settled.

46. What position do you prefer on a team working on a project?
Be honest. If you are comfortable in different roles, point that out.

47. Describe your work ethic.
Emphasize benefits to the organization. Things like, determination to
get the job done and work hard but enjoy your work are good.

48. What has been your biggest professional disappointment?
Be sure that you refer to something that was beyond your control. Show
acceptance and no negative feelings.

49. Tell me about the most fun you have had on the job.
Talk about having fun by accomplishing something for the organization.

50. Do you have any questions for me?
Always have some questions prepared. Questions prepared where you will be an asset to the organization are good. How soon will I be able to be productive? and What type of projects will I be able to assist on? are
examples.

From Life hackers reference.

20 August 2006

Follow the 80/20 rule

::From Higher awareness site::

“Nothing can add more power to your life than concentrating all your energies on a limited set of targets.”

-- Nido Qubein

The 80/20 rule says that on a list of 10 tasks, only 2 of those tasks will return 80% of the value of the entire list. Look at your ‘to do’ list for today. Which tasks are directly related to what you most want in life? Find the 2 high value items on your list and tackle them first. These tasks are the ones that really move us forward.

Many of us actively avoid the top 2 priorities because they are more challenging than the rest. If they are to lead us to worthy goals, they are undoubtedly asking us to move into new territory in thinking and acting, and this can be scary. But this is also REWARDING!

“Don’t kid yourself: it’s because you’re doing all those C’s (low priorities) and NOT because you haven’t any time, that you don’t get to do your A’s.”

-- Alan Lakein

12 August 2006

Did you get the joke?

"1. Never tell everything at once."

- Ken Venturi

Blind Sarcasm.

"On my income tax 1040 it says 'Check this box if you are blind.' I wanted to put a check mark about three inches away."
- Tom Lehrer

02 August 2006

Newspapers ::baah::

To read a newspaper is to refrain from reading something worthwhile. The first discipline of education must therefore be to refuse resolutely to feed the mind with canned chatter.
- Aleister Crowley

“I am unable to understand how a man of honor could take a newspaper in his hands without a shudder of disgust.”

Charles Baudelaire

The best newspapermen I know are those most thrilled by the daily pump of city room excitements; they long fondly for a "good murder"; they pray that assassinations, wars, catastrophes break on their editions.”

Pete Hamill

21 July 2006

Training session

As a trainer, answering a question that you don't know involves

# Rephrasing the question
# Redirecting the question to the audience/class
# Admitting your ignorance (optional)
# Finding a solution (optional)

But seriously; In a training environment where a class meets for more than one day, addressing 'stumper' questions is fairly easy. You typically reserve an area on a dry-erase whiteboard (called a 'parking lot' by many in the field) where you log one or more questions for follow-up.

The key, of course, is to actually follow-up on these 'stumper' questions. your integrity as a working professional depends upon it.

Michael Martine comments, redirecting a question back to the class often isn’t a very good idea in a computer training situation–especially for lower-level applications classes (technical classes are quite different). You’re supposed to be the expert. You answer the question. Being honest and saying you don’t know but you’ll find out (and then getting back to them) has always been the best course in my experience (7 years training).

The absolute most important thing about handling tough questions is to be confident and optimistic–never appear flustered or harried or like you skipped a beat. Please note that’s not the same as bullying the questioner.

Other comments: One can use the following examples-

“I don’t know. Let’s try to figure it out. We know XYZ, and that implies TUV…”

“I don’t know. Have you done any research on the question? What do you think about it? What approaches have you tried? Where have you looked for information?”

“I don’t know. Does anyone here have any ideas about it?”

“I don’t know. The whole class (and I) now have an extra homework problem to complete for next time.”

“I don’t know. I’ll look it up/work on it, and get back to you next time.”

Insecure or Unsecure?!

The term "insecure" cannot be used to describe an unprotected computer network. Computer networks don't have psychological problems, body image issues, or challenges with insecurity. A computer network can be described as either secure or unsecure, but not insecure. :-) Charles

20 July 2006

FREE MUMBAI!

I hope mumbai is given some autonomy... its a cosmopoliton city and pours a lot of tax.. deserves better government, which a huge state cannot manage... free mumbai!

Interview tips

Who are they?
Find out some background information about the organization. Make sure that you know something about their products, services, systems/applications, technical environment. What you don’t know – ask in the interview.

Questions please?
”No, I think we’ve covered everything” is not something that an interviewer want to hear when they ask if you have any questions. Make sure that you have some questions prepared, and make sure that they are relevant – it always helps if you are actually interested in the answer. Try not to ask the same old questions. Think about things that you really want to know about your potential employer

Practice.
If you are not confident or do not have much experience of interview try to practice with a friend or family member. Make sure that you treat this as a practice and not a rehearsal – don’t try to memorize answers, instead use this exercise to get you thinking.


# Mobile phones off
# If you use glasses, wear them in the interview
# Ask questions – do not wait until the end to ask questions, if the opportunity arises during the interview ask the question. A flowing conversational interview is easier for interviewers and interviewees.
# At the end of the interview, thank the panel. Try to use their names if you can remember them. Do not be afraid to ask what happens next and when you may hear from them.


These two blogs are from membox.com

General interview questions

General questions

* What are your main strengths?
* What are your weaknesses?
* Tell me of a time when you did something well that you were proud of.
* Give me an example of time when you had to solve a complex problem.
* Describe a time when you had to make an unpopular decision.
* What strategies do you use to keep abreast of changes in your technical field?
* Tell me about a time when you suggested a new and innovative way of working? What came of your suggestion?
* What part of your job do you find most stressful?
* Tell me about a difficult report you had to write. Why was it particularly difficult?
* Why do you want this job?
* What do you think you can bring to the department?

10 July 2006

Words ::baah:: ::baah::

Remove the filters

“You got to look at things with the eye in your heart, not with the eye in your head.”

-- Lame Deer, Medicine Man of the Oglala people

Whenever we’re thinking, our experience is being filtered through our minds. For example, when I say to myself, “What a beautiful sunset!” I am not fully experiencing the sunset because I am involved with the words in my mind.

Explore letting go of the thoughts, the words, and connecting directly with your experiences. Tune in to the silence and the sensations in your body. Be aware of the spaciousness this brings because this is truly living in the present moment.

Being present doesn’t mean that we have to abandon thinking entirely. That’s not feasible, of course. But we can experiment with what it’s like to stop thinking once in a while!

“Only in quiet waters things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.”

-- Hans Margolius

Making life our own

“Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.”

-- Stephen Vincent Benet

What’s needed for a new relationship with time and life?

Intention -- Get really clear about what you want.

Desire -- How much do you want something new for yourself? Know your motivation. Desire brings the energy for change.

Belief and/or willingness to trust you can have what you want. If belief is lacking, can you believe in the possibility that you can find a new way of living?

Perseverance, discipline -- It takes time and effort to change attitudes and habits. We can’t expect a new life overnight.

Acceptance, both of what’s happening now and of who we are. Until we honestly and openly accept our present situation, we cannot change it.

A willingness to try something new.

“It is so easy to waste our lives: our days, our hours, our minutes. ... It is so easy to exist instead of live. Unless you know there is a clock ticking. So many of us changed our lives when we heard a biological clock and decided to have kids. But that sound is a murmur compared to the tolling of mortality.”

-- Anna Quindlen

Cause of anguish

Higher perspectives

“Bias and impartiality is in the eye of the beholder.”

-- Lord Barnett

According to Andrew Schneider, the radical difference between personality awareness and soul consciousness is a difference in perspectives. Acquiring a soul perspective allows us to see things differently – and we always see a more inclusive, universal picture. This expanded view adds to an understanding, enjoyment and appreciation of life.

If I insist on hanging on to a personality perspective that is contrary to a soul perspective, the two perspectives will clash. This challenges me to find a way through to a deeper truth than I previously knew. This kind of tension between soul and personality positions is typical of the prelude to transformation that is a vital part of the soul journey.

“I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead; I lift my eyes and all is born again.”

-- Sylvia Plath

Smart questions to keep handy

“Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”

-- Anthony Robbins

Last time, we talked about questions to avoid. Today, let’s consider some that are truly empowering:

- Is there a message for me in this experience?
- What’s the gift in this situation?
- What can I learn from this?
- What’s the most loving thing I could do now?
- What’s the most important thing for me to focus on now?
- What would I do if I knew I could not fail?
- What would I do if there were nothing to fear?

“A prudent question is one-half of wisdom.”

-- Francis Bacon

Accepting reality

An Article from Higher awareness:

“...self-contempt never inspires lasting change.”

-- Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter

I can suck myself down into a deep, black hole when I focus on what I think I SHOULD be… more loving, sexy, productive, whatever. Thinking I should be something else means I’m not good enough now. This is poverty thinking and a guaranteed way to be miserable.

I can let go of this suffering by accepting WHAT IS. I can say, “This is how I am right now and that’s okay.”

When I first tried this, I could say it but not believe it. Then I began to experience the freedom this perspective brings – just by changing my mind! Now I’m beginning to believe it. What a gift!

“When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.”

-- Byron Katie

09 July 2006

Recognition

Why should you bother about recognition? Bothering about recognition has meaning only if you don’t love your work; then it is meaningful, then it seems to substitute. You hate the work, you don’t like it, but you are doing it because there will be recognition; you will be appreciated, accepted. Rather than thinking about recognition, reconsider your work. Do you love it?...then that is the end. If you do not love it, then change it!

OSHO

Anger

Gurdjieff used to teach his disciples never to start by dropping anything. First start by bringing it in, because only a person who can create anger on demand can be capable of dropping it on demand — simple mathematics. So Gurdjieff would tell his disciples to first learn how to be angry. Everybody would be sitting and suddenly he would ay, “Number One, stand up and be angry!” It looks so absurd.

But if you can bring it.... And it is always available, just by the comer, you just have to pull it in. It comes easily when anybody provides an excuse. Somebody insults you — it is there. So why wait for the insult? Why be dominated by the other? Why can’t you bring it yourself? Bring it yourself!

In the beginning it looks a little awkward, strange, unbelievable, because you have always believed in the theory that it is somebody else whose insult has created the anger. That’s not true. Anger has always been there; somebody has just given an excuse for it to come up. You can give yourself an excuse. Imagine a situation in which you would have been angry, and become angry. Talk to the wall and say things, and soon the wall will be talking to you. Just go completely crazy. You have to bring anger and sadness to a similar status, where they are exactly proportionate to each other. They will cancel each other out and you can slip away.

Gurdjieff used to call this “the way of the sly man” — to bring inner energies to such a conflict that they are engaged together cancelling each other, and you have the opportunity to escape. Try it, mm?

By Osho.

08 July 2006

Seek union over separation

“Beliefs separate. Loving thoughts unite.”

-- Paul Ferrini

Our ego focuses on how we are different from the rest of the world. We connect with soul when we experience how we are the same.

Any time you separate yourself from other people or from situations, you know your personality is in control. At such times, shift your perspective to build connection and you will move into soul.

“As a holistic being you shatter the illusion of your separateness and reveal your connection to everything. This empowers you in a way that the ego-driven self could never contemplate.”

-- Wayne Dyer

From Higherawareness website.

30 June 2006

Dopamine

The kick ass chemical in your brain that makes you feel and do happy things... whatever they may be.

Dopamine creates happiness. We're not exactly sure why or how, but it does...so, enjoy.

29 June 2006

13 Job Interview Mistakes To Avoid

By Nathan Newberger The wrong move can cost you the job! You've worked hard to get to the interview stage. You passed the cover letter and resume screening process...maybe even a few telephone interviews.

Now its time for the face to face interview with the employer itself. Any number of items can go wrong but you have to be in control and must have confidence. Go into an interview with the feeling that you are going to impress them so much that they will have to make you an offer.

The interview is the most stressful part of the job hunt for many people because now they can't hide behind the cover letter and resume. The real face to face human connection between possible employer and job candidate takes place. But for starters if you simply follow these 13 tips below, you are on your way to interviews with results.

A big part of a successful interview is avoiding simple mistakes. Mistakes are deadly to the job seeker and easy to avoid if you are prepared.

These are the most common interview mistakes - and their antidotes.

1. Arriving late. Get directions from the interviewer - or a map. Wear a watch and leave home early. If the worst happens and you can't make it on time, call the interviewer and arrange to reschedule.

2. Dressing wrong. You make your greatest impact on the interviewer in the first 17 seconds - an impression you want to make powerfully positive. Dress right in a conservative suit, subdued colors, little jewelry (but real gold, or silver, or pearls), low heels (polished) and everything clean and neat. Hygiene includes combed hair, brushed teeth, deodorant and low-key scent. Check everything the night before, again before walking out the door and once again in the restroom just before the interview.

3. Play zombie. OK, you're nervous. But you can still smile, right? And make eye contact, yes? Sit up, focus on the interviewer, and start responding. Enthusiasm is what the interviewer wants to see.

4. No smoking, no gum, no drinking. This is all comfort stuff for you, and none of it helps you here. Employers are more likely to hire non-smokers. At a lunch or dinner interview, others may order drinks. You best not.

5. Research failure. The interview is not the time for research. Find out the company's products and services, annual sales, structure and other key information from the Internet, the public library, professional magazines or from former employees. Show that you are interested in working for the prospective employer by demonstrating knowledge about the company.

6. Can't articulate your own strengths and weaknesses. Only you can recognize your most valuable strengths and most hurtful weaknesses. Be able to specify your major strengths. Your weaknesses, if such must come up, should only be turned around to positives.

7. Winging the interview. Practice! Get a friend, a list of interview questions and a tape recorder and conduct an interview rehearsal. Include a presentation or demonstration if that will be part of the real interview. Start with introducing yourself and go all through an interview to saying good-bye. Write out any answers you have difficulty with, and practice until your delivery is smooth (but not slick).

8. Talk, Talk, Talk. Rambling, interrupting the interviewer and answering to a simple question with a fifteen-minute reply - all of these can be avoided if you've thought through and practiced what you want to communicate. Good answers are to the point and usually shorter.

9. Failure to connect yourself to the job offered. The job description details the company's needs - you connect your experiences, your talents and your strengths to the description. It answers the essential reasons for the interview - "How my education/experience/talents/strengths fit your needs and why I can do this job for you."

10. Not asking questions - and asking too many. Use your research to develop a set of questions that will tell you whether this is the job and the company for you. This will help you limit and focus your questions. But don't overpower the interviewer with questions about details that really won't count in the long run.

11. Bad-mouth anyone. Not just your present employer, or former employer, or the competition. You don't want to look like a complainer.

12. Asking about compensation and /or benefits too soon. Wait for the interviewer to bring up these issues - after the discussion of your qualifications and the company's needs and wants.

13. Failure to ask for the job. When the interviewer indicates the interview is over, convey your interest in the job and ask what the next step is.

24 June 2006

At peace everywhere

... driving is also a time when I can pay attention to my reactions. Does irritation arise when someone drives too quickly or slowly, or when I get stopped by a yellow light? Being aware of the irritation gives me the opportunity to acknowledge and then release it. If I choose to, I can be at peace anywhere – even on the road!

From Higher awareness website.

Moneys worth

Money is nothing more than a medium of exchange. While we may want more money to get out of debt or to have more cash to play with, we want to set goals that represent more than just making money. And so we might ask, “What do I want money to do for me?”

Look to the values beneath money. What is happiness to you? What things, qualities, service, purpose do you value in life?

From Higher Wareness website

21 June 2006

Change

"I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change."

-- Jim Rohn

"Slowness to change usually means fear of the new."

-- Philip Crosby

“Just as the tumultuous chaos of a thunderstorm brings a nurturing rain that allows life to flourish, so too in human affairs times of advancement are preceded by times of disorder. Success comes to those who can weather the storm.”

-- I Ching No. 3

“If you want things to be different, perhaps the answer is to become different yourself.”

-- Norman Vincent Peale

From HigherAwareness.com.

13 June 2006

Collection of interesting articles.

This blog is a collection of interesting articles found from various online sources. The original information/author is quoted after each article or is linked to the original website.

23 April 2006

Be on vacation - today!

“A loser seldom lives in the present, but instead destroys the present by focusing on past memories or future expectations.”
-- Muriel James
I had been feeling really tired, and so I began planning a one- week vacation. I became aware of how desperate I was to leave responsibilities behind and simply do nothing for a while. Fortunately, I quickly realized how insane it is to expect one little week that is months away to meet all my needs for freedom, joy, play and relaxation.
Life is only worth living when we experience the gifts of vacations in delicious moments, day in and day out. Qualities like freedom, play and joy do not depend on external conditions. They can be realized any time, if we open to their presence right now.
I’m happy that I will be going on vacation, AND I’m doing more to look after my needs as they arise each day.
"You had better live your best and act your best and think your best today; for today is the sure preparation for tomorrow and all the other tomorrows that follow."
  • Harriet Martineau

From Higherawareness.com

21 April 2006

How to avoid office politics

How to avoid office politics
Considering the source, you may just want to skip right past this post, since I’ve only paid attention to political maneueverings long enough to learn how to avoid them. I’m not much of a political player at work. A few years (and positions) ago, an older colleague of mine was regularly berating me (in a caring way) for not paying attention to the political process at work. I just didn’t have the stomach for it. Still don’t. Sometimes to my detriment, actually. But I’m cool with that–at least I can sleep at night. And I mean that literally. The craziest stuff will keep me awake, so staying non-political, at the very least, is a surefire way to ensure better sleep. I assume that folks who are political at work also sleep well…they just have a higher craziness tolerance than me.
The whyThe primary reason that I stay apolitical is that it takes up too much space and time, and I’ve already got enough things to worry about. Plus, I don’t get the sense that being political would appreciably contribute to my overall efficiency or productivity. So I stay out of it.
The howThis is both simple and sublime. I strive to just be me. Here’s how, deconstructed and in no particular order:
  1. Wear no mask. By “mask” I mean those identities that we assume in order to fit in better, feel more comfortable in a situation, or get people to loosen up around us. I don’t do it. Some folks think it’s a good idea to change like a chameleon to suit the situation. I think that’s a recipe for disaster. I try to be me, all the time. The guy that walks into your office is the same guy that walks into your colleague or boss’s office. One face, no mask.

  2. Be transparent. Not invisible, just without guise. All my agendas are clearly visible. You want to know what I think? I’ll tell you. The words I say might make one or both of us uncomfortable, but I’ll do my best to soften them without diluting their truth.

  3. Flex and bend. Rigidity is a sign of rigor mortis. I strive to be flexible and willing to hear opposing points of view. Defending a lame position for any reason is, well, lame. I don’t assume I’m the smartest person in the room, and I generally take the opinions of others at face value (this is where being apolitical can be painful, but only in the short term).

  4. Listen to ‘em. This helps with the flex and it helps with the ‘no mask’ thing. Learning to really listen is dangerous to my status quo. Truly listening means I’m extending myself beyond my own boundaries, at my risk and for the benefit of the other. It’s hard to do if you’re unwilling to be transformed.

  5. Park the ego. This is a difficult one (and probably is for everyone), but it’s essential for me. When my ego gets wrapped up in the work, it’s too easy to start defending those lame positions mentioned earlier.

  6. Forget the empire. I don’t want to be an empire builder. I’ve got my responsibilities and I attend to them. If I acquire an empire, I’ll probably never notice.

  7. No gossip. I fail too often at this one. Gossip is talking about stuff that you haven’t confirmed as true. Unfortunately I slip into gossip mode too often, and I think it’s because I’m so willing to talk things out. Though censorship is a sign of politics, ironically a little greater control over the internal censor is probably well advised.

  8. Focus on it. What’s the business issue at hand? Focus on it. Straight outta Druckerland. The key is to be sure I’m not being myopic about the issue I’m focusing on. Sometimes the issue is broader than my current focus.

  9. Apologize later. As opposed to asking permission first. This is really just a corollary, but the willingness to act first instead of asking permission sometimes helps me avoid other people’s political quagmires.
All of the above is really what I do. I think it’s just a tad ironic that I have a plan to avoid being political, but my plan basically boils down to being consistently authentic. Seems to work pretty well.
From Slakermanager.com

31 March 2006

This is beautiful!!

This is beautiful!!
Charles Schultz,the creator of the "Peanuts" comic strip.You don't have to actually answer the questions.Justread the e-mail straight through,you'll get the point.
1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or PulitzerPrize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winner forbest actor & actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Serieswinners.

How did you do? The point is, none of us remember theheadliners of yesterday.These are no second-rateachievers.They are the best in their fields.But the applause dies.Awards tarnish.         Acheivements are forgotten.Accolades and certificatesare buried with their owners.

Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:
1. List a few teachers who aided your journey throughschool.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through adifficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you somethingworthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feelappreciated & special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.Easier?

The lesson: The people who make a differencein your life are not the ones with the mostcredentials,the most money, or the most awards.They are the ones that care.Think about  those peoplewho have made a difference in your life.

30 March 2006

Parents

Parents!

Parents tend to have a habit of saying things in can't-you-just-do-something-right tone which is not good for their child’s confidence. Let’s be aware of how we say things.

27 March 2006

goes 4 life 2

"If you chase two rabbits, both will escape."
-- Source Unknown

28 February 2006

PERSEVERANCE

Be the best you can be.  If you are a fireman, be the best fireman you can be.

If you are an aunt, be the best aunt you can be.

If you are a postal clerk, be the best postal clerk you can be.

Whatever you do, do it well and you will never look back and wonder if your life was worthwhile.

From- Thehappyguy.com

27 February 2006

Rich Douglas on Communication

"Always look at someone directly in their eyes when they are speaking
to you. This may seem difficult at first but it's definitely the #1 body language ingredient to make you successful when interacting with others. Note: Do not ever stare at someone."

"Always stand up straight. You never want to slouch. Not only does this make you appear shorter but it projects an image of someone who has low self-esteem."

"Smile. Smiling is your most powerful body language signal. Though it is not recommended to smile constantly (people will be under the impression you are searching for approval), you should still make an effort to appear happy and optimistic."

"Do not make repeated, nervous like gestures. When speaking to someone it's important to use body movements but never fast and repetitive ones (picture someone who is nervous while public speaking; this is exactly what you're NOT aiming for)."

"Create your own personal space. Make sure you let others know you have your own personal space and do not let them walk all over you. Note: you never want to invade someone else's personal space."

"Dedicate all of your attention to the person you are speaking with. Do not constantly look around as if you are uncomfortable or not interested. "

Stab you in the front!!

"True friends stab you in the front."

I love that quote by Oscar Wilde.  It is so true.  An enemy is someone who stabs you in the back, who hurts you when you are not aware, who says things you don't want to hear when you are not listening.

A true friend hurts you right up front by saying the things you don't want to hear when they know you are listening.  Thank your friend for telling things you didn’t want to hear.  If you act on them, you might find that fewer enemies say such things when you are not listening.

David Leonhardt

24 February 2006

Confused!

“Happy Birthday to You” is considered to be the best-known song in the world. And, irony of ironies, nobody knows who wrote it.

About Confusion.

I now know, without doubt, that when I’m confused is never the time to act. I must wait for clarity.
From- Higher awareness website.

Well said Vinci!

I learned quickly that business executives didn't care about usability testing or information design. Explaining the importance of these areas didn't get us any more work. Instead, when we're in front of executives, we quickly learned to talk about only five things:
How do we increase revenue?
How do we reduce expenses?
How do we bring in more customers?
How do we get more business out of each existing customer?
How do we increase shareholder value?
Notice that the words 'design', 'usability', or 'navigation' never appear in these questions. We found, early on, that the less we talked about usability or design, the bigger our projects got. Today, I'm writing a proposal for a $470,000 project where the word 'usability' isn't mentioned once in the proposal.
By Vincent Flanders

Microshaft

Whenever there's a site that makes you wonder whether Jesus died in vain, the odds are it was created by Microsoft's (Af)FrontPage.
By Vincent Flanders

23 February 2006

About webpage navigation.

All web navigation must answer:

Where am I?
Where have I been?
Where can I go next
Where's the Home Page
Where's the Home Home Page

Navigation must be simple and consistent.
Common mistakes include different types of navigation on the same site, a link to the current page on the current page (home page link on home page), poorly worded links so the visitor doesn't know where he'll go if he clicks, no links back to the home page, confusing links to the home page, etc.
By Vincent Flanders